Last updated on December 9th, 2020 at 06:40 am

Well, it happened again! I woke up Monday morning with the realization that I was doing it once again. And to be quite honest, I was rather frustrated with myself.

What is it? That thing I keep doing? Let me tell you. I keep letting what other people think (or what I think other people think) affect my decision-making process.


I am going to be very open to you right now. I am the type of person who hates to hurt someone’s feelings, even if I do not mind disliking people or making them angry with me.

It makes me very uncomfortable if I think I have hurt them in any way. This has worked against me for many years.

In school, if I did really well on an assignment, I would not let my friends know because (in my mind at least) it might hurt their feelings.

I gave up activities that were really important to me because someone else wanted to do them instead.

Even in the job world, I have passed up promotions or certain jobs because I did not want to offend a friend.

Thankfully, my thirteen years in the military did help cure me of most of this hindrance. However, sometimes it is difficult to overcome a lifetime habit.


So, here I am waking up on Monday morning and realizing that with the blog I was trying to write I was doing it again.

The website/blog that I had originally intended to build/write was to be about my life as a first-time-mom at 39 and the fun of having a toddler.

I wanted to write about having two grown step-daughters and two step-grandchildren who are older than my own son. About what it is like to get married for the first time at 36 and become an instant mom/grandma and all the struggles that go along with that.

Because of my habit, here I was trying to create a website/blog about cleaning and organizing your home. Basically, doing it again.

Don’t get me wrong. I am good at cleaning and organizing.

However, that is not my passion and so I was not getting very far. Sure, I am including a section about cleaning/organizing the home. After all, that is a big part of my life with a toddler. But I want this blog to be so much more!

Starting Over

One of my very close friends gave me a necklace charm that says, “Living your dream is something you can do; just always remember to yourself be true! Choose your own path and off you’ll go; believe in your dreams they’re possible, you know!” (Ganz)

So here we are. Starting over fresh. Writing about what is important to me because I need to choose my own path and be true to myself.

I want to hear from you! Anyone else ever let what other’s think or feel influence your dreams? How have you chosen your own path?

Melissa and Doug

3 thoughts on “Doing It Again (or Starting Over)

  1. You have done a wonderful job. I am very proud of you and all your hard work !
    Thanks for spoiling me every day
    I love you.

  2. Good for you! You summed it up when you said you need to choose your own path and be true to yourself. Write what you are passionate about, what you care about, and don’t let others influence you. I used to live my life doing what others wanted me to do, and worried that I would displease them if I didn’t. One day, like you, I woke up and decided I wasn’t going to do that anymore. You have one life. Don’t let others tell you how to live it. They have their own lives they need to worry about. If others don’t like your choices and how you are living your life, it is their problem, not yours. You do you, girl! I look forward to reading more on your blog!

  3. Love this!!! And yes I have done the same!!
    Just speak your heart, you will find the ones who can relate…. and if they can’t then they can just move on!

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